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“My cellulite doesn’t make me less of a woman..neither does my less than perky breasts or my inability to justify why I should have to hide my body.” — Tess Munster, (an actual plus)-sized model.


I had to repost this because what I could say about this makes up an entire essay.

I don’t think most people realize what is going on here, which is why it is not directly addressed. Weight stigma is a feature of sexism, it is a strange mixture of the overt and covert to continue to place the status of all women below all men. When you follow the logical thread, it is easy to see, but most people don’t follow the logic.

So here’s the logic:

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Do diet bloggers WANT to make us puke?

        After reading a blog today, my thought is that the answer is yes.

Is your diet strategy promoting a sense of disgust? That’s a question I never asked until I came across this: Nutrition and Disgust (“Why do people get religious about nutrition?”).

I think it’s a  disturbing trend, not just because of the implications, but because its something that can be easily dismissed (or, as the comic proves, made fun of). A lot of people may see it in action, but never really think about it. People read blogs or news articles, watch shows or read magazines devoted to “health and nutrition”, but aside from maybe checking the factual content, people don’t really look at the language being used, or what effect that language has on his or herself, or any other person who is reading.

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The Militant Baker Marches On!

Anyone stumbling around the internet has probably seen the UN series underlining just how much misogyny ends up being typed in the search box of Google.

Anyone out of the know should just look up “women are” with Google and you’ll see why the UN proceeded to create this campaign.

In an effort to extend awareness on just how ubiquitous hate is on the internet, the Militant Baker has started her own, similar autocomplete campaign, and a lot of women have joined in by posting their own posters to her Facebook page.

The problem is that, as usual, weight stigma and weight-related bullying are not something that FB can be bothered to take seriously.

In fact, they have gone so far as to not allow Jes to promote images like the one below, based on the fact that they would garner “negative feedback.”

Well, hate garners a lot more than negative feedback, and speaking out against it, even if people disagree and want to rant about the “obesity epidemic” or get all defensive with the “a skinny people search blah blah blah” (what’s sad about that is Jes has never supported skinny shaming or any sort of body shaming, and that those people who jump on that bandwagon do so because they are trying to find something to be offended over instead of simply joining in the movement to improve everyone’s lives… it makes me sad when so much more can be done if people would check their egos at the door for a moment and actually READ) is something that we should all support.

Choosing to bully, insult, and discriminate against fat people based on one’s own perception that they are weak, stupid, lazy, unhealthy or whatever other Maria-Kang-esk “excuse” a person can latch on to is bigotry, pure and simple. It’s bigotry when it is done based on skin color, it is bigotry when it is based on religion, sexuality, ability, and any other “label” which people throw around to try to disconnect themselves from the rest of the human race.

We are all human. Please visit the links and help The Militant Baker spread the word.

In her words, kthx.



For the Love of Selfies

Very good points.

Fat Body Politics


The photo above was taken in 2008 when I was 22 after spending 16 years in hiding. Over those 16 years my photo had been taken by family members or other people where the way I was photographed was more about how others settled their gaze upon me and I wasn’t able to control or dictate the way I was captured. Much like what Melissa from Shakesville wrote, having my photos taken before the age of 22 meant it wasn’t for myself. I lacked the ability to move beyond how others decided to view my body and instead was forced into being visible in ways I wasn’t comfortable with.

Yesterday Jezebel posted an article declaring that people who take selfies are really “crying for help,” not only pathologizing those of us who take selfies but also completely ignoring how the dynamics behind selfies are more than just taking a…

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the HAES® files: A Bad Case of “The Blues”

It’s really horrible to see how people are being jerked around just so another person can ensure their bottom line is as cushy as it has always been.

Health At Every Size® Blog

by Jon Robison, PhD, MS

Imagine getting a letter from your insurance company “inviting” you to participate in a “voluntary” program to improve your health. Imagine that you received this special invitation because your Body Mass Index (an unscientific, mathematically bereft proxy for health) is 30 or greater. Imagine that although this program is “voluntary,” if you don’t participate, it will cost you as much as $2,000 in added insurance premiums this year. To be fair, imagine that you do actually have a choice here: you can avoid the $2,000 price tag in this “voluntary” program if you agree to 1) wear a pedometer and enter at least 5,000 daily steps into the computer every 30 days or 2) join Weight Watchers or some other approved weight loss program.

Never mind that almost a third of the people who “volunteered” were pissed off and felt coerced into joining…

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the HAES® files: Stress Mess: How “Fighting Fat” Makes People Sick

Excellent article. Society needs to shift it’s focus. If people actually care about the health of those who are fat, the first question should be “what is life doing to this person” not “how can I get this person to lose weight”. No one needs to be told what to do. No one wants it. It is judgmental, which symptomatic of bigotry, and must end.

Health At Every Size® Blog

by Linda Bacon, PhD, and Lucy Aphramor, PhD, RD

The Health At Every Size® Blog is honored to feature this post, which is also being posted as part of the “Featured Bloggers” online conference taking place for Weight Stigma Awareness Week 2013.

The World Health Organization uses the term ‘globesity’ to describe a supposed epidemic threatening millions across the world with the specter of serious metabolic health disorders.

We cry foul: Those menaced “overweight” millions, it turns out, come disproportionately from disadvantaged populations, and no matter how fat or thin they are, it’s their marginalized status itself that harms health. “Fighting obesity” as a health target not only adds insult to the injury of poverty and stigmatization, it worsens the situation. Fat, while an expediently visible marker, is not the actual enemy. The move to banish it flouts scientific evidence while honoring half-hidden aesthetic and moralistic biases.

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Blog breaks…

I blog cuts off abruptly toward the end of August because I went to visit my boyfriend in England for two weeks.

What happened there was an eye opener and one I could blog about for the next month. What was happening at home, however, has taken away my desire to write.

My father died less than a week before his 72nd birthday. I do not like discussing it because he was, in a lot of ways, the poster child against everything I want people to feel and believe: He was a morbidly obese ex-smoker with COPD who was so heavy that he could barely get around, let alone lose the sort of weight that he would need to undergo the bypass surgery that would have helped keep him from dying of the congestive heart failure/COPD combo that took him away from us on Sept. 5.

This news — heard after my real struggles in England based on the fact that I simply was not in a physical or emotional shape to tackle the busy, walking-intensive vacation that I thought my boyfriend wanted (turns out, had we actually discussed what we really wanted instead of what we could do, we would have realized we were both much more in a spa-vacation type mood than a whirlwind sightseeing mood) — has made this last week an extreme struggle. I have had issues with my father for a long time, but now he has become a statistic that can easily be used to bolster the side of those who want to cure obesity by destroying every human being that happens to find themselves in the BMI trap.

How does one speak against it all without feeling like some kind of a hypocrite. After all, he WAS too big. It’s not what killed him, but it did exacerbate his health issues as the only real treatment for congestive heart failure is an extreme lifestyle intervention: exercise and a restrictive diet.

Because of all this, I have had to stop following various FB pages/blogs on the subject of body positive/fat acceptance/etc. and I do not know when I will be able to write this blog again, or if I will be able to.

I want nothing more than for every single human being to be able to walk this world with dignity, knowing that those they encounter will treat them with honest respect instead of hidden loathing. But it seems like an impossible thing to ask for when there is so much ammo that can be used to suggest that I and others like me not only deserve to be treated with loathing, but should also loath ourselves for being abnormal.